February 2012
22 posts
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anshinwrites asked: Re: fanmail. Honestly? Ask her. That's the best thing you can do. There IS no one-size-fits-all answer for this question, and nobody but she can tell you what to do--and even then, her own preferences for what you need to do might change depending on other circumstances. TALK to her about what to do. That's the only answer you need from the rest of us.
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Help?
I got this question as fanmail. Since I’m with a cis person, I can’t really help. Followers?
I have a question. When my (trans*) girlfriend is going through dysphoria, is it better for me to just silently be here, or try to pull her out of it and reassure her? I know this varies from person to person a lot, but right now I’m far away so I can’t just hold her…
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dear cissexism,
kindly tell binarism to go back to your side of the bed
also, stop appearing in self-help books for trans* people oh my glob i thought you had BOUNDARIES
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Dear Cisexism,
You are an ugly assface who tries to destroy the lives of all queer persons.
You are my motivation to do better.
You will not win.
Kindly fuck off while you’re behind. Thank you
-Kyle
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inflateablefilth:
thecuntmentality:
I’m really tired of seeing social justice tumblrs picking and choosing whose identities are real and whose aren’t. Really fucking tired. You don’t get to pick and choose. You don’t get to tell someone their rights come before someone else or play the Well I’m More Oppressed Than You game. You don’t have some magical mind reading ability that lets you read...
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Anonymous asked: Can I rage at my english teacher a little? Becuse he is cissexist, racist, albeist duche. And he made fun of me becuse I prefer pronouns they and he compared it to schizophrenia. I really hate him.
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Anonymous asked: Hi. I adore this blog and everything that's submitted in a way words can't express. But now I need help. I'm an almost-18-year-old closet transman. Next year I'm starting university in a different city, and it'd be my greatest dream fulfilled if I could start the life I've always wanted. But there are a couple of big problems standing in my way. First: I feel the...
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whims-of-a-feminist asked: I love you and wish I had been following you a few days ago when I was getting a backlash of horrificly rude cissexist bullshit for being inclusive to trans* people on the subject of reproductive healthcare by two fairly popular blogs. If I had been following you I probably would have been a bit stronger in the spine area.
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Anonymous asked: Re: cis woman dating a trans woman — I'm a trans guy dating a cis guy, so, take this as you will. We both still have lots of feelings for our exes for a variety of reasons, but that doesn't change how we feel NOW about each other. If this is something that you feel you should tell her, then do it, but you should also remind me that you've been there, you've done that,...
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Anonymous asked: I'm a cis queer woman dating the most beautiful trans* woman in the world right now. I still have feelings for my first crush on a woman (not reciprocated; that was explored years ago). I don't want to keep this from my girlfriend, but I know she already feels bad/is dysphoric because she feels like she's keeping me from dating "real" women (and her ex broke up with her...
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Anonymous asked: Kind of relevant to this blog and I don't know who else to tell but I want to tell someone! This MtF chick at my school recently came out to some of her semi-douchey friends who I was afraid might not be accepting at all toward her, but I overheard them talking to someone about it and one of the guys said "yeah, I mean it's not a big deal. It was kinda shocking but you don't...
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Anonymous asked: I just wanted to say that reading through this blog has been really interesting and helped me understand some issues regarding gender identification. One of my friends doesn't identify with their birth gender, so this has been really helpful. Thanks!
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Dear cissexism,
These things are not exclusively “women’s issues”:
Reproductive health
Breast cancer
Stop acting like they only affect women.
(This message brought to you by all the Susan Komen/Planned Parenthood things on my dash today.)
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i-sauntered-vaguely-downwards:
livelaughawesome:
blackbruise:
perks of being a girl
I can think about whatever I want in class without worrying about boners
[Image is a gif of a person grinning, shaking their head, and saying “CISSEXISM!”]
I LOVE THAT GIF!
and yeah totally cissexism
- Leon
This blog needs this gif.
*saves*
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Yep. Pretty much.
livelaughawesome:
could you imagine if people complained about how many names existed
as much as they complained about how many pronouns existed?
“YOU MEAN YOUR NAME IS SARA? WITHOUT AN H? OH MY GOD WHY CAN’T YOU JUST BE NORMAL AND USE JILL OR JOHN”
Although, now that I think about it, people say that, too. They criticize people who have names like Jaykub or Juleighanne, and most recently,...
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Yep. Pretty much.
livelaughawesome:
could you imagine if people complained about how many names existed
as much as they complained about how many pronouns existed?
“YOU MEAN YOUR NAME IS SARA? WITHOUT AN H? OH MY GOD WHY CAN’T YOU JUST BE NORMAL AND USE JILL OR JOHN”
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But, Really. (Gender Rant)
i-sauntered-vaguely-downwards:
yepdeesaidit:
Thanks to Tumblr, I’ve learned that I’m cis-gendered, someone whose biological sex matches their gender identity. In other words, I am a woman by both genetics and deed.
Because you’re learning I am going to interject here and tell you that the way you’re using biological sex (not to mention the way most people use and conceptualize the term...
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Consent is more than "Will you have sex with me?" ...
thambos:
dearcissexism:
livelaughawesome:
Consent is “Do you want to have sex with me?”
Consent is “Are you comfortable with being close to me?”
Consent is “Do you feel safe when you’re with me?”
Consent is “Did anybody talk you into this?”
Consent is “I know you wanted to an hour ago, but do you still want to?”
Consent is “I know you said I could touch you there, but do you want me to...
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Consent is more than "Will you have sex with me?" ...
livelaughawesome:
Consent is “Do you want to have sex with me?”
Consent is “Are you comfortable with being close to me?”
Consent is “Do you feel safe when you’re with me?”
Consent is “Did anybody talk you into this?”
Consent is “I know you wanted to an hour ago, but do you still want to?”
Consent is “I know you said I could touch you there, but do you want me to touch you there too?”
...
January 2012
14 posts
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A Wish List for Trans-Inclusive Sex Ed
vulvapower:
transcending-anatomy:
I wish for no one to be labeled as a “(wo)man”, or even as “(fe)male-bodied”, because of their anatomy. I wish for the chance to describe my own body and to name my own parts.
I wish for discussion about how to come to terms with my body, how to ease the pain of dysphoria (mine or someone else’s), how to be connected with the parts that change and how to...
Two hundred followers!
Wow!
You’re all awesome!
And feel free to submit stuff!
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Anonymous asked: So what you mean is that people often don't know what they're talking about when they talk about physical sex, is that it? It sounds a lot different from saying that it's a myth. I get what you mean but I just don't see how it could mean it'd a myth, as in it's not something related to physical traits.
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sixty-seven asked: People are physically people. That is what makes their gender or lack of gender= their sex. It isn't magically someone else's sex, it's THAT PERSON'S. THEIR BODY BELONGS TO THEM, AND USES THEIR PRONOUNS. My, for example, is male. My voice is male. My chest is male. Because -I- am male. Same as every other person in all of existence. This isn't fucking rocket science,...
Truth (A poem by me)
Today I wrote a poem inside my head of truth
About the paths I take in life,
And all past wrong ones too
Somewhere along the way I’d lost myself
Struggling to stay in rhyme
With those who never seen my thoughts,
Or even took the time
To understand why I choose
To now sing a different tune
Explaining would be crazy
As howling at the moon
One cannot judge another’s path
When they were never...
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Anonymous asked: I'm sorry but could you please explain how is physical sex a myth?
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Non-binary reminders.
vikkiage:
My non-binary experiences are valid.
My non-binary experiences are defined by me.
I do not identify other non-binary peoples’ experiences, and they don’t define mine.
Binary people do not get to define my or anyone else’s non-binary experiences.
I have the right as a non-binary person to refuse to accept people brushing me or any other non-binary person under the fucking carpet...
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we-are-small asked: Hello! I'm doing a project-type-thing on the indefinite pronoun "they". I've already written about how it's accepted because of the various genders outside of male and female, but I was wondering if there were any other reasons? I know that it's been accepted since the 15th century but I need to know why. My English teacher will want more evidence than what I have. :/
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Anonymous asked: "They" is also a valid possessive pronoun in ebonics, e.g. "We finna burn they house down."
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ponchoboy:
“‘they’ is not a valid pronoun”
[Image is Dexter’s Brian, looking very unamused.]
In case you missed the sarcasm:
SINGULAR THEY IS A VALID PRONOUN
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Repealing DADT does NOT allow LGBT people to join...
Repealing DADT allows SOME LGB people to join… but not officially ANY LGBT person. Or heterosexual T* person, or pan, or trisexual, or asexual, or homoromantic person, or so on and so forth. No one who is trans* is officially allowed to join the US military, no matter what their sexual orientation, romantic attaction, both, neither, or other may be.
STOP SAYING THAT LGBT PEOPLE CAN NOW JOIN...
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ponponweiponpon asked: Hey. Sorry about the misunderstanding. When I posted that it was more about the guy being ugly emotionally, he told my friend she was a bitch and that she didn't deserve to live. I wouldn't have ever said that if the guy was just not good looking.
confessions of a gay man...
ponchoboy:
allmygayconfessions:
Whenever an unattractive guy walks up to me and asks if I want to make out, I tell him “Sorry, I only kiss guys. As in you have to have a penis and balls.” before walking off.
(God I’m an ass)
screams at cissexism
flies away
What all is wrong with this?
Implying that being male has something to do with how you look rather than how you identify
Implying...
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December 2011
28 posts
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Anonymous asked: You've mentioned otherkin and transgender people, but is there such a thing as trans-race people? For example, if a born white person feels more like someone of an Asian or African race, can that person identify as another race?
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Anonymous asked: What is the difference between androgyne and genderqueer?
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Anonymous asked: Were you joking about "otherkins," or is that a real thing? I've never heard of it.
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Anonymous asked: Hello. I'm the anon that's asked the last few questions. I apologize if it seems like I'm "trolling." I don't mean to judge or insult you, and I am only interested in the pursuit of knowledge and understanding. To me, it seems that being able to "change" your gender "identity" makes sex and gender completely meaningless. For the entirety of human...
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Anonymous asked: Ok. I'm gonna be a woman for about 5 minutes, then go back to being a completely binary cisman. Thank you.
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keepyourcorsetstight asked: I saw that you said you've given birth and that you don't identify as female. Was it difficult, socially? I plan on having kids some day, but I worry that my family and friends will be like "Oh, so you don't think you're a man anymore? Men don't give birth."
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Anonymous asked: If someone is born with male genitalia, male chromosomes, behaves like a "typical" male (likes sports, is competitive,athletic, whatever) but chooses to "identify" as a woman, does that make him a woman?
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singingitfortumblr asked: Dear anon, all it takes is a quick search of the words "pregnant man" and some well known, highly publicized cases will appear for you. One couple became very famous a few years ago as they were the first to come forward to the media in order to raise awareness for trans* people. It was known world wide. This is only one example and for non-binary folk, I'm sure there's PLENTY...
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Anonymous asked: I was asking more for an article, or something non--subjective. Sorry for the misunderstanding.
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Anonymous asked: Can you present a documented case/article of someone who is not a woman who has given birth?
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Dear cissexism,
NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE VAGINAS
NOT ALL PEOPLE WITH VAGINAS ARE WOMEN
FffffffffffffHOW HARD IS THIS TO REMEMBER?
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A personal rant:
I don’t usually make personal posts on here, but I think this one is appropriate.
I have a lovely child who will be two in January. They were assigned male at birth. They have a male name. (Primarily because I like the people I named them after.)
I hate the holidays, because everything is so fucking gendered. All my child’s presents were “boy toys”, and I was worried that...
mynameislyddy:
dearcissexism:
rianhardcastle:
Dear abstinence, You’re not the only hundred percent effective birth control… Sincerely, homosexuality.
Dear cissexism, some gay couples can get pregnant.
Sincerely, someone who isn’t a woman who has given birth.
LOL TOLD.
Also, it should be “Sincerely, same-sex relationships, anal sex, post transition bodies, hystorectomies, vasectomies,...