Dear Cissexism,

You are terrible and you make the world more terrible.

inapaste:

a moment of silence for all of the women who pursued an education in the sciences and were mansplained and condescended to so much that they left and were then used as justifications for why women are “just” “naturally” “bad at this stuff”

You poor ladies have all my hugs and cookies. :(

(via gynocieum)

gluisa88:

Tumblr: “No one can define your sexuality but you!!”

Celebrity: “I’m straight”

Tumblr: “Nope, gay!” 

(Source: grandpacain, via gzer0x)

Society, however, does not see all fat as being equal. A man can be much, much fatter than a woman and still be viewed as comfortably within the standard deviation; most department stores carry men’s pants up to a size 42, which is the rough equivalent of a women’s size 24—a size that a woman would have to visit a specialty big-girl store or “Women’s” department to find. Men are comfortable on beaches with their beach-ball bellies hanging over their swimsuit waistbands, bronzing their fat in the sun, whereas my fat women friends struggle to find swimwear that does not feature a skirt.

So me, I’m transgendered. It means that the gender I present in the world is not congruent with the sex that I was assigned at birth; in practical terms, I mostly look like a man but have a body that some would consider physiologically female. Even though I don’t identify as a man (I am a butch, which is its own gender), I am taken for a man about two-thirds of the time. And when I am taken for a man, I am not fat.

As a man, I’m a big dude, but not outside the norm for such things. I am just barely fat enough to shop at what I call The Big Fat Tall Guy Store, and can sometimes find my size in your usual boy-upholstery emporia. Major clothing labels, like Levi Strauss, make nice things in my size, and I am never forced to wear anything that appears to have been manufactured at Mendel the Tentmaker’s House o’ Fashion. (Although those things do exist for men, too. Those terrycloth shirts with the waistbands? Oy.) I can order extra salad dressing or ice cream or anything else in a restaurant and have it arrive without comment; I can eat it in public without anyone taking a bit of notice, even if I am shoving it into my mouth while walking down a crowded street and getting crumbs all over my chest in the process. I can run for a bus or train without anyone making a snide remark.

As a big guy, I’m big enough to make miscreants or troublemakers decide to take their hostility elsewhere. As a woman, I am revolting. I am not only unattractively mannish but also grossly fat. The clothes I can fit into at the local big-girl stores tend to fit around the neck and then get bigger as they go downward, which results in a festive butch-in-a-bag look—all the rage nowhere, ever. No matter how clearly I order a Coke in a restaurant I must be on a diet, and so I get a Diet Coke—usually with a lemon floating in it accusatorily, looking up at me as if to say, “This is as good as it’s going to get, lardass.” Wait staff develop selective amnesia about my side of fries or my request for butter, and G-d help me if I get caught eating (or even shopping) in public as a woman.

—S. Bear Bergman, “Part-Time Fatso” (via wretchedoftheearth)

(via priestessthief)

kiriamaya:

scorpion1999:

White transpeople need to care about racism and cultural ignorance because the arbitrary gender roles that have been embedded into western society are a direct result of white colonialism and the disregard for other cultures ideas about gender and sexuality.

This x10000.

(Source: severeproblems, via priestessthief)


[text reads: “what is your real name though?” <3]

My real name is Red Foreman. As such, let me put my foot up your ass for asking such a fucking rude question.

[text reads: “what is your real name though?” <3]

My real name is Red Foreman. As such, let me put my foot up your ass for asking such a fucking rude question.

(Source: littlestraightallythings)

In case the last post wasn’t clear? If you call yourself an ally because you like slash, or if you’re only an ally so your OTPs can become canon, I probably hate you.

jerseysmusings:

Look, you can ship m/m ships in your respectful fandoms as much as you want, we all do it, because it’s fun. The point we’re trying to make is: do not pretend you’re doing anything for our actual rights (you know, those of actual human beings) by doing so, because you don’t. Shipping fictional same sex ships (or RPS) doesn’t magically turn you into an ally. There’s a little more to it than that.

Yea, cause posting crap like this is so gonna make them wanna be your ally. I can’t believe I have to get into this again. Would you prefer them curb stomping you, or siding with you because they like some smut? Pick your motherfuckin’ poison. 

Except the point is… WE SHOULDN’T HAVE TO CHOOSE. Do you REALLY not see the problem between “object of blind affection because OMG GAY” and “ewwww gays” being the only options?

If the only reason they’re allies is so Johnlock can be canon? I don’t fucking want them on my side.

Queer people DO NOT EXIST FOR YOUR ENTERTAINMENT. We are NOT HERE TO BE FETISHIZED. Fuck off, I don’t need you as my ally anyway.

(Source: spectralenko, via raymondvestersagenda-deactivate)

paradife-loft:

livelaughawesome:

socialistexan:

inkdefense:

butts-with-bro-shades:

spiderdyk3:

fatal-encores:

Exactly.

love this.

I’m gonna cry

:)

And if you can tell, they still have no obligation to tell you or anyone else ever, and you sure as hell don’t get to out them.

Passing shouldn’t be a condition of not being outted.

what about “even if you can tell, don’t”

or “even if you can tell, it’s nobody’s fucking business”

or “if you think you can tell, you could be wrong and maybe you should reevaluate your perceptions of gender, assigned-sex, and gender expression”

so on one hand… yes, commentary, indeed. while this might be a good way to shock a trans issue newbie into reconsidering some of their cissexism, uh. whether a person needs to explain to you, stranger, or even you, friend, you family member, etc. really has nothing to do with whether they can be read as trans or not. because they aren’t under any such obligation, regardless of pretty much anything… it’s their own damn life. not your business. even if they’ve got on a bright sparkly t-shirt that says HEY GUESS WHAT I’M TRANS!

but then there’s the other issue with this. which is, why exactly is this psa or whatever it is using trans men? I mean hey maybe I’ve been living under a rock and there actually is some big virulent cultural trope that trans men need to disclose that they’re trans or else they’re deceivers, need to be put in their place for that, etc. etc. but um… while I’m sure that does happen to some trans men, because of cissexism, it is a much much bigger problem for trans women.

and taking the problem of this overwhelmingly transmisogynistic sentiment and generalising it as a problem solely of cissexism, as though it affects trans men to the same degree, to use it as a vehicle for urging people to treat (white, cisheteronormative) trans men as socially acceptable, with no mention of the (poc, non-cisheteronormative) trans women who need the benefits of fighting this sentiment so much more….

um. no.

(Source: mrballard)

livelaughawesome:

socialistexan:

inkdefense:

butts-with-bro-shades:

spiderdyk3:

fatal-encores:

Exactly.

love this.

I’m gonna cry

:)

And if you can tell, they still have no obligation to tell you or anyone else ever, and you sure as hell don’t get to out them.

Passing shouldn’t be a condition of not being outted.

what about “even if you can tell, don’t”

or “even if you can tell, it’s nobody’s fucking business”

or “if you think you can tell, you could be wrong and maybe you should reevaluate your perceptions of gender, assigned-sex, and gender expression”

(Source: mrballard, via livelaughawesome)

clumsyoctopus:

rereading the harry potters has made me really uncomfy with how jk rowling writes girls

all the slytherin girls are horrible and also really ugly and butch and masculine i see how it is jk rowling i see

And I felt like, since Hermione was smart, she couldn’t be “(conventionally) pretty”. She had to be dorky looking and weird, and it was never implied that she was ever thought of as pretty by anyone.

(Source: smalldisgruntledcorgi, via decisive-emu-victory)